What is this sham we are presenting to younger generations of Canadians? Our federal politicians seem to have their heads in their pants as they “tut-tut” about human sexuality. With no meaningful debate, the Conservative’s twisted new prostitution laws have come into effect. Justin Trudeau has punished two Liberal MPs for having sex with New Democrats. In this parliament: hypocrisy rules.
And judging by the headline news in print and broadcast these days, some entertainers must have far greater sexual stamina than the rest of us. We have always known the casting couch is a real place and there is also no question that there are women who notch their belts for the celebrities they bed.
But, at the same time, brutality is no part of sexual relationships. Beating a smaller, weaker person is the mark of a coward. Forcing a person to submit to sexual advances because of a position of authority should always be a crime.
But what is consent? There are words, there are actions, clutching and directing and simple murmurs. The best sex is by people who care about each others needs. Sex knows only the boundaries of human creativity. And sex is private.
Inviting a person to your bed is an invitation to new depths of relationship. It is neither a conquest nor a lasting commitment. If you do not make the offer, you will never know. And an invitation to return is a compliment.
But there is also morning-after remorse. It can be on either side. After a night of athleticism and learning, it can be somewhat shattering to believe you did not measure up. You have to remember that sex is as mental as it is physical. We are all individuals.
And that brings us to the world of prostitution of which unfortunately our politicians have no special understanding. Sex workers are of many shapes, sizes, genders, offerings and costs. They perform important services to society and they need our indulgence. To leave them to the dark corners and back alleys and to mistreatment by the less honest members of our society is to be ignorant of human needs and declares us to be hypocrites. Prostitution is the oldest profession because it is a basic service that deals in human needs. Only fools try to deny its existence.
And we are pleased to see that some Liberals and New Democrats are striving for a new plateau of accord. There is much that can be resolved in bedrooms and the participants should not be criticized for it. Messrs. Mulcair and Trudeau definitely need to be less stuffy about it.
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Copyright 2014 © Peter Lowry
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